Monday, October 13, 2008
I am so thankful that we made it there in time for it. Since then has been a whirlwind. We made the funeral arrangements with my mom, sisters and Chad present. Thankfully, the girls were with Debbie and Doug while we drove up to Dallas.
Chad left to head back home to get the girls and tell them about Grandpa. Julia said that she was "sad inside but happy that he was with Jesus". Just those little words were enough for me to say, We are all going to be ok. She nailed it right on the head.
I was so overwhelmed with amount of love and support from friends and family that showed up at both the visitation and the funeral. It was so hard but so amazing. We had friends come that we haven't seen in years just to say hello. It was truly amazing.
The funeral was nerve racking since my sisters and I were speaking as part of the eulogy. We made it through and said what we wanted to say. I was so relieved to know that it was over.
The men's club held a luncheon for us which was so nice. It was such a great day to see everyone. The burial was sad and the ending to this long agonizing week. Now we are back home and life is as we left it. We are all back at work for a week now and the kids are so glad to be at home.
I have had good days and bad days. The worst was last Thursday. I guess it was facing the fear of losing it when people said how are you when dropping off the kids or just thinking it was the week mark of his death. Whatever it was, it was a hard day. Friday was better but then Julia in an emotional meltdown started crying for Grandpa and how much she missed him. That was tough. I know I will get through this one day at a time.
Thanks again for all of you for everything you did. I am so grateful for all of my loving friends who really came together for me. It was truly something I will never forget.
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
I love the top one of Julia playing with Dad. She was getting great reactions from him. I also love our family picture. I was thinking about it and it has been 3 years since our last family picture. And lastly, Dad and his girls.
Monday, September 22, 2008
First and foremost I would like to thank all of you for your thoughts and prayers throughout this time. I know the prayers have worked and God is offering us so many new hopes. We have seen my dad for the past few days and each day he seems to be better.
He is still in hospice care and some people have said that patients do get better before the end but I am just looking at it as he is more responsive and actually talking at times. I haven't heard his voice in over a year and that alone is a blessing.
He is making eye contact and when he does look, at times he smiles and laughs. He is making comments here and there saying, "Oh God. or even saying, "Oh shit." haha We all just laughed. My sisters and I feed him ice cream and Julie brought him a beer. He liked the beer. I asked him if he liked it and he said, "Yeah!". I also asked him if I was his favorite and he said, "Yeah!"
So, the report is still that he is terminally sick with pulmonary embelisms (sp?) and one could burst at any time. He is still in hospice care for up to 6 months. He is currently off all of his medications and just trying to keep him comfortable. He is eating more which is so good to see. When people have asked me how he is I am not sure what to say. Yes, he is dying but he is better in responding and constantly holding my hand or caressing my face.
That in all has been the best! I hope this doesn't sound rude to anyone, but once you have lost the touch of your dad or mom, nothing is better than getting that back again just one more time. The girls have really been all over him. Kissing on him as he makes the kissing noise. It has been such a blessing.
We are heading back up there in a bit so hopefully I will have more good news to post. It has been hard but you know, it has been so great spending this time with him.
Thanks again for all of your prayer and keep it up! We are so grateful for each of you!
Saturday, September 20, 2008
Now, we have other news that my dad isn't doing well. He has Alzheimer's which was diagnosed in 2001 shortly after Chad and I were married. Progressively, he has gone down hill and been in a nursing home for the past 2 1/2 years.
We received a call that his breathing was labored and they found blood clots in his legs and lungs. He is in Hospice care at the VA and it isn't looking good. We were able to drive to Dallas and see him today.
It was great to see him and he was somewhat responsive to us and even talking at times. He smiled and held my hand, which was well worth the trip.
Please keep us in your prayers that God will take him when it is his time. Our prayers are being answered that he isn't suffering. I am just looking for strength that God will provide us comfort when it does happen.
Thursday, September 11, 2008
We are not going to evacuate and just stay put. We bought the standard water, flashlights, batteries, food and filled up both cars. I have explained to the girls that it will rain a lot and that is about it. I think Julia is more mad that she will not have soccer this weekend.
School closed at noon today and now we are just getting the house prepared. It is way too late to leave and after riding out Hurricane Rita 3 years ago at Debbie and Doug's we decided to stay. Plus- if we left then we would be in Arlington maybe by Saturday. The traffic is already horrible.
Thanks to those who have texted, emailed and called. We are fine and actually going to enjoy the time together. May have a hurricane party tonight at Amanda's just to ring in Ike!
Love to all and I will post again when we have power. Hopefully if we lose it, the power will be back on by Monday or so.
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
We had a great time at the Lake house this weekend, thanks to Debbie and Doug. We had 4 families with 10 kids in all. The jet skis were a bit hit and we had some first timers for everything.
We were getting ready for the Fletcher's to come over for dinner. I wish I could have captured Debbie, Doug, Kyle and Laura's face when they saw Ava for the first time. Needless to say, she was looking pretty sharp for dinner at home.
Ava on her first day at Mother's Day out.
Thursday, August 21, 2008
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Monday, August 4, 2008
Sunday, August 3, 2008
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
So, to make myself feel better, here is what happened. We had a party planned for Ava at her favorite park. It was about 1,000 degrees that day and of course, she wakes up with a fever. I was in party mode and we continued on. She was in the worst mood, it was hot as hell (or hotter) and she didn't have fun at all. We wrapped up the party early and came home.
The next day, I took her to the dr. because she was breathing weird and was burning up. I am not one to just rush out and call the dr. for anything, but this was freaking me out. Chad was at home with Julia and then off to get Ava's big girl bed.
The dr. that we saw said she thought she heard something in her lungs and I needed to take her to the ER at Texas Children's. I burst into tears at the thought of her having pneumonia and called Chad. He was in bed mode and didn't pick up. Long story longer, we get Julia to Debbie and Doug's and Ava, Chad and I off to the hospital.
Everyone and their dog was there and lucky for us, they started a new computer system. 7 or 8 hours later, she has an ear infection. I was pissed and relieved all at the same time. We didn't get home until 5:30 in the morning to have her feeling better once the anti-biotic kicked in. It was pure hell.
So, do you feel sorry for me now?? I am laughing under my breath but seriously! I didn't even document this huge event until now. But now you all know... :)
She is talking more and more everyday and loves her one month MDO. Tomorrow is the last day and I think she will miss it. She has been doing extremely well in it for being such the shy little girl that she is...
I was so opposed to the idea of picking up poop, caring for ONE MORE person in the family and hearing Ava screaming about the dog chasing her. Well, as you can see, I caved in because, come on- look at him! He is adorable!
He is a Cava-Poo (King Charles Cavalier Spaniel and Poodle). We learned that dogs are all mixing with poodles. I didn't realize that you could mix a poodle with a lab. Sounds gross but then you get a Labradoodle. He doesn't shed, which was a major plus.So after many hours of Chad convincing me and research, we decided on Riley. Everyone wanted us to name him Prince, but for some reason, it didn't fit him.
We bought him on Sunday and he has been the best puppy ever! We haven't had a puppy since Barkley, which we got in 2000. Barkley is somewhere or maybe we should say- may he rest in peace- We gave him to the SPCA about a year or so ago. It has been awhile since we had a dog and the thought of getting pregnant right now, freaks me out, so a dog it is!
Julia is just smitten with him and loves him so much. Ava is getting warmed up to him but has recently petted him for the first time. She is scared of dogs and we hope with the new addition of Riley, her fear will be gone.
I know you are wondering why Riley RUFUS Fletcher? Well, Rufus is my dad's middle name and was my grandpa's as well. Now, with the passing of my grandpa- I thought it was fitting. Julia was also calling him- Roofie and Roof. So, Riley it is!
Friday, June 27, 2008
Chad and I agreed that we would go back in a heartbeat but we may have to wait 10 years or so for the girls to get a bit bigger. We went to a Luau, which was my favorite night. It was truly amazing. The road to Hana was awesome as well. It was a long day with over 300 curves on a long narrow road. but the end result was gorgeous. We were looking stylish in our econo-van to hold all of us. Haha! Check out the black sand beach.
I can't express into words how much fun and how relaxing it was. Oh- the best part was also sport fishing with Chad and Doug. We had to get up at 3 am and get on the boat. We saw the sun rise and caught about 4 fish between us. You see, I just started this whole fishing experience. Chad and I celebrated our 7th anniversary in San Diego and as the super cool wife I am, we went deep sea fishing. This was a complete different experience.
In Hawaii, it was on a 1.3 million dollar boat with A/C, which was nice for this city girl. It was a beautiful boat. I did not know a thing about how to reel a fish in and didn't catch much on the first go round in San Diego. In Hawaii, I caught the biggest fish on the boat. It was hilarious. The Hawaiian guy names Shadow, told Chad to not help me and let me "feel the nature". I was dying! My shoulder was burning and I would have rather birthed 10 kids then do that again. It was pretty cool, I have to admit. Thus the picture above..
We were also in Hawaii on Father's Day. We had a wonderful dinner at the Plantation House. It was amazing. They sat us right in the corner for the most perfect view. We saw the sunset as we were eating dinner. It was just gorgeous.
Now, it is back to reality in Tomball. The girls have their activities and work is full steam ahead. Oh, I miss Hawaii!
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
For example, today she wanted it when she didn't get her way. So, she asks for it, I ignore her then she tried to bite something, anything. It was kinda funny but so Ava! haha
Monday, May 19, 2008
Leading up to the ballet recital was somewhat hectic. We went to Debbie and Doug's lake house on Lake Livingston, which we had to drive back for the recital. I stupidly, volunteered myself as one of the backstage moms. I will never do that again! Lesson learned. Between the 2 moms, we had 15, yes I said 15, three-four year old awaiting their turn onstage. We waited for about 45 minutes before they went on. CHAOS!!
Overall, I was so happy with how everything turned out but being backstage, I missed all of the show. I regret that. Julia was a trooper making the drive back to the lake house later that night.
The next day, we had our family reunion for my mom's side of the family. I will post pics when I get them!!
Monday, May 12, 2008
Thursday, May 8, 2008
So, this goes on and on throughout the day and was going well until we headed to the gym. Ava starts yelling, "NO! NO!" I dropped her off in the Childwatch and of course she cried but just for a bit. When I came back, she was standing next to a girl with a pacifier bawling her eyes out! I felt horrible! I forgot about kids at the gym with pacifiers.
Thus, leading to this post about asking for it ALL DAY today! I felt like I set her up. I feel so bad. Needless to say, she still won't nap after an hour of being in her bed crying for me. The cries are starting to diminish all while precious Julia is being so patient to have some time with me.
When I picked her up at school, with Ava in tow, Julia asked me about the "P-A-C" (pacifier). I told her it has been a long day and she responds, "Well, it is going to be a long few days." haha She is such my little lady!
I am hoping this saying that it takes 3 days to break a habit is true. Cross your fingers for my sanity! Please!!
Wednesday, May 7, 2008
A little history for you- Ava in the car has her paci, Ava in the crib has her paci, Ava at the store has her paci, Ava anywhere usually has her paci. Well, no more my friend, NO MORE!
We decided to cut it last Wednesday thinking it would take 2 days like it did for Julia. Oh no! Ava is so stubborn has taken 7 days and still wants the lifeless nub at the end of it! No telling how she ever is able to even hold it in her mouth but she was able to today.
After a few temper tantrums, I took it away from her. Now it is time for nap time and she was so mad about taking a nap she threw it at me! So, Bye bye Paci forever. She was able to put herself to sleep after 30-45 minutes of hearing, "MOMMY!!!!!!!! Mommy :( MOMMY!!!!!!!!!" So, we have history here people! It is gone.
In the car ride home from Nonna's house she begged and pleaded for it. "Mommy, paci please!" For 30 minutes she was crying for it. Ok, my heart was aching that I couldn't give it to her but for the love of GOD! I have to stand my ground, all while it was really in my pocket (just in case!) We get home and not a word about it even going to sleep.
So now for all the new moms out there (Tech Alumni), I hope this doesn't scare you at all. It is just one of the more pleasant stages of our sweet angels sent from heaven.
I will be sleeping good tonight!!